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A potential life partner is not nudist (he/she is even opposed to it). Is this a dealbreaker for you, or not?

Nicoleva's picture

No dealbreaker...but

Not a deal breaker if the spouse doesn't mind thier husband or wife going to nudist gatherings.  A relationship where one partner puts constraints on what the other can or cannot do is destined to fail.  I love my wife and, like other comments have stated, we both have things we like to do together and many things we do independently. She is not a nudist, but doesn't mind going with me to the beach and staying in her suit.  She wouldn't mind if I visit a clothing optional beach on my own.  Trust and honesty is the only way to make any relationship truly work.

jimlar123's picture

Lucky for me, my husband was

Lucky for me, my husband was going to Gunnison before he met me.  I don't think it would have been a deal breaker even if I didn't enjoy it as much as he does.  The deal breaker would have been if he expceted me to attend ALL his family functions!!!

(Just kidding, the fam is really very sweet!) Tongue out

Nicoleva's picture

Question aimed mostly at

Question aimed mostly at single Gunnison goers. Imagine that you meet someone that you think might be a good fit for you romantically... how important it is to you that he/she is accepting of your nudist lifestyle?

If you're in a relationship, did you think about this when choosing your partner? Did it change your feelings?

As for myself: this would be a dealbreaker. I couldn't be in a relationship with someone who thinks nudity is shameful or something that he would frown upon.

It's important to be yourself, 'cause if you're not yourself, then who are you?

Married but alone on the Beach

My wife and I have been married for 46 years and just 5 years ago I discovered Gunnison. I went by myself and told her afterwards. She is insistant that she would not go with me and she hasn't. Her choise. She doesn't object to my going there as long as my chores around the house are done. It would be nice to be enjoying the beach with her but I make the best of it alone occationally talking with others and soaking up the maxium vitamin D. I do get to go 4 or 5 times a season and there are no negative effects on our marrage.

When I suggested last year of

When I suggested last year of going to Gunny with my Wife, She said she would go but would only go topless. My wife is a BBW. When I showed her some of the photos on this web site she changed her mind. When we went this July for the first time she took it all off. We had a great time and talked to a few people.She said " I can't beleive I did that.". It was her who suggested we go back again. We went 2 more times and enjoyed ourselves.  They say don't go into a relationship with the expectation of changing someone, but I guess sometimes people can change their minds. If you were walking around the house nude all day in front of me that would certainly get my attention. I guess there are other things that go into a relationship.

Jim

Nicoleva's picture

"other things"

First of all, let me begin by saying how happy I am for you and your wife! It is great that she opened herself up to this new experience and got to enjoy it, too.

You say " there are other things that go into a relationship" and I agree wholeheartedly.

It's obviously much more complex than just aiming the question at a guy in the budding phase of a relationship and just leaving him right away if he says "no". I would probably not do that.

But there has to be a certain openness, a willingness to give it a shot. I don't see myself with a person who thinks nudists are weird people, or has preconceived opinions about the goings on at a nude beach that he is not open to altering by experience.

It's important to be yourself, 'cause if you're not yourself, then who are you?

Basix's picture

Dealbreaker, nah

There are much more important connections, as far as I'm concerned. 

Nicoleva's picture

I agree

Yes, there are.

It's a broader matter. I probably would not say no to a person who's simply not interested or just shy to come with me to Gunni, but I would deffinitely not go into a lifelong relationship with someone who looks down on me because of this.

It's important to be yourself, 'cause if you're not yourself, then who are you?

I would....

> I probably would not say no to a person who's simply not interested or just shy to come with me to Gunni

Having been on the other side of this argument, I would probably not pursue a relationship with that person, unless there is a good reason to deal with the tension this creates. It took me 25 - 30 years to change my mind on nude recreation, and I'm not even a particularly stubborn person. At least I don't think I am.

 

My Wife and I have been

My Wife and I have been married for 34 years. I am into model trains. My wife is not. I go away with the guys several times a year for a few days to train meets. She says have fun. My wife goes out with her friends for dinner or visits her sister for a week and I tell her to have fun. You can't expect to do everything together. We do go to parties and dinner with friends we have in common. We enjoy ourselves being together. There are a lot of things in a relationship but one should not look down on someone because they like to do somethig that you don't. Different strokes for different folks, as they say. If you have fun together and enjoy each other company that is a plus , but one should be tolerant of your compaions differences. When we are on a cruise my wife likes to go to the beach, I do not. (execpt for Gunny) but I put up with it and go. We did go on a cruise with a group of friends. One of the husbands want to go to the beach and his wife did not. So he went to the beach with my wife and I stayed on the ship and had lunch with his wife. It worked out great. 

Jim

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